Head, Heart, Hunch
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by J. Val Hastings
1w ago
We talked in an earlier post about why to use a coaching model. The 1, 2, 3 Coach model, also described in that post, was really helpful in the beginning. Then, to be honest, I got a bit bored with it. Coaching sessions were starting to all feel the same. And that can be one of the drawbacks of a model or a framework. After a while, even your client knows, “Okay, now they’re going to say, ‘Tell me more.'” I also discovered that things didn’t always flow in an orderly manner with the people I was coaching. Sometimes the conversation would leapfrog in different directions. That’s when I turned ..read more
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1, 2, 3, Coach!
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by c4cweb
3w ago
Coaching models are not something we’ve discussed much on this blog. While the ICF coaching competencies give us a framework for assessing a coach’s effectiveness and skill, and guide coaches in how to grow and improve, they don’t give really practical suggestions for how to accomplish this. Why use a coaching model? I can think of three main benefits. First, it gives you a structure and format with which to coach. Second, it provides simple language to explain what coaching is or isn’t. I often use some kind of visual representation of a coaching model: a diagram, chart, or other image. And l ..read more
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Your Body Needs Some Backup
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by J. Val Hastings
1M ago
We’ve talked about how technology can challenge us and what backup measures we should have in place. But have you ever considered the incredible combination of functions and processes our bodies perform every day just to keep us functioning? A loose connection here, a weak signal there, and we’re not operating at full capacity. There are things we can do regularly to strengthen those signals, back up those functions, and maximize our functioning. These habits also make it easier to cope when things go wrong. It’s like working out at the gym. Even if we get into a slump, and we’re not going as ..read more
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What’s Your Backup Plan?
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by J. Val Hastings
1M ago
When we were moving into our new home a couple of years ago, we decided we didn’t need a landline anymore. Unfortunately, we moved to an area where the cell service is really poor. So we are almost totally dependent on the internet for any phone connection. Well, one Thursday, our internet just stopped. Every once in a while it would pop on, but then it would stop again. We called tech support on Friday, they ran a bunch of tests to finally determine there were two pods we needed to replace. But by then it was past their office hours on Friday. This wasn’t going to be solved in one day So we ..read more
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Stop Putting Work First
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by J. Val Hastings
2M ago
On the theme of what I want to stop doing this year, I had an interesting conversation with my daughter about work-life balance, and she asked, “What if we switch the order?” I realized how powerful it is to put life first, even in how we describe this concept. I used to be good at putting life first, but some work-first practices are creeping back in. We talked in a previous post about checking email (specifically work email) first thing in the morning, and how that invites other people to determine our priorities for the day. It’s also about blocking time in my calendar—time and space for m ..read more
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Stop Checking Email So Much
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by J. Val Hastings
3M ago
“Half the leaders I have met don’t need to learn what to do. They need to learn what to stop.”—Peter Trucker, as quoted in What Got You Here Won’t Get You There by Marshall Goldsmith I’ve read it before, but this quote really resonated with me recently. I thought, if that’s true, then maybe instead of making New Year’s resolutions about the things we’re going to do this year, maybe we should talk about what to stop doing. What are we going to stop? One thing for me is checking email. Obviously, I’m not going to stop altogether, but I can certainly stop checking it so much. Here are a few idea ..read more
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No-Pressure December
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by J. Val Hastings
3M ago
I’ve done the math, and so when I set annual goals for my business, I plan to complete them in 10 months, not 12. Partly because I usually take a month off in the summer, and partly because I know December’s not going to be as productive as I want it to be. There are traditionally fewer work days in December, between holiday closures and vacation plans (your own, your clients’, or others you work with). That, and our focus is undeniably split between our personal and work lives—possibly even more than it usually is—which can drain our energy. So what do you plan to do with your limited time a ..read more
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How to Recharge and Renew Amidst the Holiday Chaos
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by J. Val Hastings
4M ago
Well, it’s December, and we’re into the holiday season. Whatever you celebrate, this is undeniably a busy time. So how can we take care of ourselves in the midst of extra activity and expectations? How can we cope with the busyness and the stress and the shopping and the family and all the different things that come up? I invite you to consider simple solutions—as simple as a walk and a nap. I found myself filling those self-care prescriptions one afternoon, and reflecting on what a gift I’d given myself. Earlier in my life I did a lot of running and biking, but now I just I like walking. The ..read more
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Get Out and Play
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by J. Val Hastings
4M ago
“Play is an antidote to stress and a foundation for wellness. When we have playful experiences, we are improving our brains and our lives.”—National Institute for Play What comes to mind when I ask, “When do you play?” Many of us are simply afraid to let loose and play, for any number of reasons: We don’t think we deserve the time off, especially if others still have to work We think we have to be available 24/7 and that only we can solve or take care of issues that may come up while we’re off playing We don’t want to look foolish or childish (yet look at how wonderful children are, and how ..read more
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The Magic and Mystery of Business Development
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by J. Val Hastings
5M ago
There’s a saying that if you polish over here, it shines over there. In other words, the effort you’re making might not have the precise results you’re looking for but could bring even better ones that you’d never even dreamed of. What matters is that you keep trying. Some of my new clients are people I met many years ago. It may have been slightly disappointing that they didn’t sign up then, but things unfold the way they’re meant to. And a big part of that is what I did in between: I stayed in touch, I kept doing good work by learning and improving, and I made it easy for them to find me wh ..read more
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