Do you ever find that insecurity about your body and appearance prevents you from connecting the way you want in relationships? Are you ever consumed by people pleasing to the extent you lose your voice while dating or having sex? This is a very common experience for many folks, particularly women. In today’s episode we have with us therapist Nicole Mathieson, who is an expert on the “beauty load” and how to heal low self esteem and body shame within relationships.  Nicole and I, located on completely different sides of the world, have long been internet friends, and truth be told colleag ..read more

Are you going through a break up or rocky time in your relationship? Is your love life SO not where you want it to be? This can be such a challenging time, but to have it happening during the holidays? Ouch.  It amps up intensity and heart ache. All the emphasis on togetherness, special memories, and being merry and bright can make it painfully apparent the lack of that special someone in your life. Or at least the lack of it feeling really good with that special someone.  Don’t worry, I’ve got you.  There is a way to make it through this holiday season without suffering and fee ..read more

I’ve been eyeing Jeff Brown on social media for quite some time now. Each of his poignant pieces would reverberate through me with a powerful ,”Yes, Amen, and Hallelujah!” Jeff has a powerful way of articulating the nuances and intricacies of grounded spirituality and love. His teachings are direct and deep, calling out the BS and painful shortcomings of new age culture and spiritual relationships.  Given my history with spiritual gaslighting and my passion for the realness, I knew Jeff was the perfect first guest for Honey in the Heart!  Jeff covers a lot of ground in this episode ..read more

Have you ever felt beyond frustrated that your partner wasn’t living into their potential or wasn’t showing up in the way you needed in your relationship?    Have you or your partner ever closed down, shut down, or emotionally punished as a way to try to make him/her change?    This maddening dynamic is SO common in relationships. It can show up at different times and for different reasons, but the tension and pain loop is the same.    The good news is that you don’t have to stay in this painful tension pattern! It can be transformed! My guest today, Tobin Zivon ..read more

Become a contributing member of the podcast +   My period used to be painful with gnarly cramps and very heavy bleeding. When I went the gyno, I was quickly put on birth control pills. Before long my body had become insensitive to the birth control hormones, resulting in a month long period, and then a time of trying various birth control pills with higher levels of hormones. That resulted in me feeling totally f*cking  crazy, out of balance, and eventually stopping birth control. It took some time for my cycle and hormones come back into some sort of regularity. The pain and discomf ..read more

I noticed several years ago that I had an aversion to pleasure. Like many women, I had put my sexuality and general ability to welcome things that truly felt good, over “there” in a little box, disconnected from the rest of my life. I knew pleasure was important, but I down played its existence. It was easier that way. It made it so I didn’t have to confront layers of discomfort and shame. Eventually that caught up to me. That little box over there wasn’t meant to be separate, it was an essential part of me being ALIVE as an embodied woman. I began opening the box and it changed my freaking li ..read more

Become a contributing member of the podcast +   There is a myth out there that once you start doing personal growth or spiritual work, you become perfect, with zero challenges or hard emotions. There is also a myth that if you do enough positive affirmations, you will stop feeling pain and have the absolute life of your dreams. The truth is that it’s messy, and our humanness continues. The key is how we relate to it, how we show up with more love and less suffering.   Naomi Love has been on the healing path for over two decades and comes with a wealth of wisdom regarding the reality ..read more

Have you ever found yourself moving toward the holiday cookie plate right after a not so great interaction with your family? Or found yourself being really harsh and mean toward yourself when you take a glance in the mirror (especially after said triggering holiday season)?   Ummmm hand raised big time over here! Most of us have done this, and it doesn’t feel so great. Emotional eating and harshness toward ourselves in so common during this time of year, the intersection of high stress holidays, post holiday remorse,  and aspiring new year resolutions.   I couldn’t think of a be ..read more

Become a contributing member of the podcast + For so long, I was living with the sneaky, yet all pervading belief that I was unworthy. Sometimes it was obvious, and other times it would be the subtle root of so many behaviors. It was amazing to me all the different areas of my life this feeling of unworthiness touched. Relationships, Work, Money, Health. I was also amazed by how strong its effect was, even though I intellectually and spiritually understood that I was worthy of love and all the good things. So many women have this same experience. As little girls, we can interpret life’s challe ..read more

Become a contributing member of the podcast +   There are so many different parts of ourselves, so many different varied experiences, it can be challenging to piece it all together and find inner coherence -  not to mention understand how to share all of ourselves in relationship. Today’s guest, Acacia Land is an expert at just that. She has certain way of speaking to our emotions, traumas, attachment styles, and parenting in a way that is deep, compassionate, and also filled with science that just makes sense!   I hope you enjoy this deep diving episode as we explore how to ten ..read more