One partner starts smoking when neither smoked. One partner stops drinking when they both drank quite a bit. One partner starts doing Ayahuasca retreats once a month, or monkish contemplative retreats, or becomes a Buddhist when they never had before. In each case, one partner makes a voluntary unilateral decision to change the status quo. I think lovers and families love the version of you they chose to accept at first, smoking and drinking etc, and if you change they tend to prefer you the way you were. I think families and relationships are challenged by change.  They should rewri ..read more

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More abou the artist, a SFO trans woman:             NPR/KQED             Spotify             Insta             I pop my Klonopin in the morning I pop my pills to keep me going I think that I might have a problem But I still ain't hit rock bottom [Verse 2] Crush my Xanax into powder Give me a drink in about an hour I want to forget my life I want to forget my strife [Verse 3 ..read more

  I had a really good experience with a local VA facility. I called and asked for the LTBT Liaison's contact info. Called them, sent an email. Next day I got a call. Answered all my questions. Very professional. They're sending me forms and next steps. Really excellent. I think they'll pay for some portion of voice training and hair removal. That's really great ..read more

I am transitioning, Male To Female. I am not rushing it. I am steadily moving from one pole of the circus tent to the other pole, moving along the high wire; Perhaps I'm seeking some place in between; perhaps to a point mostly closer to the femme side. You could say my goal is to be nongender, or gender non-conforming (GNC), or trans-femme. The pigeon holes are not helpful when we use them to force people into pre-determined boxes, but they are useful to communicate concepts and categories, and to provide a word to convey a situation. (As Whorf says, you can't discuss something, you can't even ..read more

A few days ago I did a thing where I fainted / passed out, twirled around in the tiny kitchen I was standing in, and collapsed while spinning and hitting my head on a few surfaces and the floor. Lots of blood. 11 stitches. Oh but the next day, the colorful shiner I had between my eye and my eyebrow! Mostly purple with streaks of irridescent blue. I wish I could do eyeshadow like that. Art rarely improves upon nature ..read more

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