I had to walk away from the love of my life
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by BLLH
2y ago
And it fucking hurt. Still does. But I really feel it was the best thing to do. Walk with me This wasn’t our first go around, it was our second. The first was a few years ago. I ended it back then too and it truly was for the best. Neither of us were where we needed to be. Years passed and I had stepped into the poly lifestyle. After being in that lifestyle for a while, I had told people closest to me, that I would never give it up… EXCEPT… for her. She never thought this was a big deal… but that’s a discussion for another day. Star crossed lovers I guess, because our paths met again and we f ..read more
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Confessions and Corruptions: It’s a Thin Line…
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by BLLH
2y ago
The ending of my marriage was everything bad about divorce. Police. Custody battles. Family members picking sides. Just a damn mess. I went to my parent’s house and he and our daughter moved in with his sister. It made sense because my daughter’s school was in that area, and we wanted to maintain as much stability in her life as possible. I was just as much afraid as I was excited to finally get out. I didn’t know what I was going to do, but I knew I wanted our split to be amicable. I was raised by my father and stepmother, and saw first-hand that you can find peace and happiness after a fai ..read more
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Poly a Little Jealous
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by BLLH
2y ago
When I first heard of polyamory, it sounded absolutely incredible, but it also seemed like the relationship archetype that would only exist peacefully inside of a science fiction novel. It was hard to image a relationship with multiple people being enjoyable over a long period of time. I wouldn’t consider myself the jealous type, but I had seen the results of partner envy and the impact it can have on a relationship. When I started my journey into polyamory I rushed into relationships happy with my newfound freedom and was ready to tattoo the word compersion on my ass. Soon, I became involved ..read more
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Confessions and Corruptions: One Foot Out The Door
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by BLLH
2y ago
By February 2010, I had been pregnant more times than I can remember. I was on birth control, but it kept happening. I dont know why. What I DO know is I didn’t want anymore of his children. I wanted a divorce. I stopped fucking my husband months before I came to this realization. I was beyond fed up with so many things which caused  me to ultimately lose respect for him. Of course I still loved him, I’d known him all my life. So, I genuinely didn’t want to hurt him. But, we’d already done all the counseling, all the fighting, had a police report or two out there somewhere… really, what ..read more
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What’s His F*** boy Score?
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by BLLH
2y ago
Ladies, are you dating or talking to a guy and you’re not sure if he’s a fuckboy or not? Well, look no further. Go through this list and tally up his score, the answer will become clear. He drives a camaro, mustang, challenger, or charger – 10  He has a credit score less than 650 – 15 He wears a baseball cap everywhere – 5 He wears sunglasses indoors – 5 He has an hourly job – 15 He doesn’t pay his child support – 35 He has tattoos on his face – 150 He doesn’t talk about being together – 10 He sent you unsolicited dick pics – 15 He doesn’t offer you food when you get together – 10 He do ..read more
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How to Know You’re Ready for Marriage
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by BLLH
2y ago
The pinnacle of relationships. The long sought after… forever. You’re not asking for much? Just… It could be so simple. But it’s not. The truth is, while a great number of us want to be married, I’m going to make the bold claim that most of us aren’t even remotely close to being ready for it. And if you think that simply wanting to be married makes you ready, then you’re probably the least ready for it. Fight me! So where is this coming from? Well, looking back at my past relationships, looking at past partners, and my past self… they weren’t ready and neither was I. How they and I approache ..read more
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The Hypocritical Feminist
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by BLLH
2y ago
Ah, the hypocritical feminist. This young lady was the front-runner. She (seemingly) ticked off the boxes. She was a bit on the younger side, but I was willing to give her a chance because of all the other qualities that she possessed. She was a very sweet woman, intelligent, surprisingly mature, and absolutely gorgeous. She routinely surprised me with how she handled things. I was truly impressed and enamored with her. We had been out on a few dates and this was our 5th or 6th, not sure. We met up for dinner and just hung out afterwards. Now, I have to tell you about a little incident that h ..read more
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Ladies, When He’s Upset, It’s Not About You…
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by BLLH
2y ago
First, let me start by saying a controversial but true statement… MEN HAVE FEELINGS TOO I know I know, crazy right? I mean any man who shows emotion or let’s people know that something bothered him, should just man the fuck up right? I mean, only pussies and “beta men” let things affect them. Ah yes, the societal influence over what it means to be masculine and any deviation is considered effeminate. Further, a man risks being emasculated if he shows too much emotion. You know what’s crazy? There’s no female equivalent of the word “emasculate”. You can’t strip away a woman’s femininity the wa ..read more
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It’s Too Early to be Completely Honest
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by BLLH
2y ago
  Honesty. We all say we want it, but do we really want complete honesty all the time? I honestly doubt it, but that’s a discussion for another day. There is an unspoken truth in the dating world: It’s better to lie or keep certain things private when initially dating someone. I know, that’s a controversial statement, but hear me out. How many of us genuinely only date one person at a time? Or even more generally speaking, how many us only entertain one person at a time? For all of those who are reading this and feel they fall into these categories… (raises hand) I have questions. Pictur ..read more
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Relationship Goals vs Relationship Growth
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by BLLH
2y ago
I’m not sure when I had this revelation, but I know when I finally realized it, my outlook on dating completely changed. Let me paint a picture for you… You meet someone and the two of you hit it off. Things are going well and you decide to make things official. The relationship is great and progressing nicely. Then after about a year or two, things seem to have stalled. Starting to sound familiar? Even though you feel that something’s… off, you stay in it. Why? Because you can’t quite put your finger on what’s wrong. Time goes by and that little nagging feeling has grown into a full-on proble ..read more
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