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Wiglet Looking Out Across The Mountains In Ireland It has taken me quite some time to write my first post since I decided to start to write in this blog again. Trust me I have started so many posts but they seem to loop into another thing and before I know it they are not putting the message across in the way that I want to now. I will say before I go any further that these posts will help some people, they will not help others and they will anger others. I can only write about what I have learned over the years since infidelity hit our lives. In fact I should say what WE have learned, from th ..read more

It’s been over a year since I posted on this blog. The main reason for this was that Danny and I decided to leave France and to move to my Father’s native land: Ireland. It was a bit like coming home when we arrived on a cold snowy New Year’s Eve day 2020, with two cats and two dogs in tow. Add I Our little rental on The Wild Atlantic Way Sharing that with you I hope (because this blog is all about hope) that it will give you hope that people can move forward in their lives. That some relationships can repair and evolve to such a degree that there is enough trust to make big life decisions ba ..read more

Once upon a time, when I thought life was really a Fairytale I thought that Danny completed me. I was wrong. Firstly in the fact that my life wasn’t over and I would change and evolve. So how could someone else complete me at that time? It simply wasn’t possible and it still isn’t possible today, because I will continue to evolve until the end of my life. Secondly because the only person who was guaranteed to be with me all my life was me, so how could someone else complete me? I have learned that nobody can ‘complete’ us. They can be part of our life, help us evolve and grow, teach us things ..read more

Since I started to share our story I also started to follow many other blogs where people share their heartbreaking stories, both the betrayed and the betrayers. You can see them and click on them on this blog. One of the first blogs I followed was Walking The Journey. Her latest post has encouraged me to write the next two posts. It is something I have always wanted to write about but I know that, for some, they will find it hard to read. But I do think I need to say it. This one is about Danny, the next one will be about me. As those who follow this blog know I shared our story to help peop ..read more

I have included this from the Tao because life is like water: you cannot contain it, you cannot hold it tight, you have to go with it and let it carve the way forward for you. Just something I have learned over the years. I am behind with my posts, life has surely done that to me over the past few months you can see more of it over on my other blog. I have a series of blogs to share but I am letting life lead the way and this post is in reaction to someone interact with a lot, she is a kind and caring lady, who despite infidelity in her life has put all she has into recovery with her husband ..read more

This blog is, as ever, to give people hope: you can survive infidelity, and you can get stronger than you ever thought. Here are my thoughts on how we have used what we have learned to cope with what is a difficult situation for us right now. At this difficult time in the world in the grip of Covid-19 Danny and I are apart: I took a job that involves working two weeks on and two weeks off on an island close to France, with the aim of earning enough money to fund the next part of our Adventure and get us moved to Ireland. But then Covid-19 reared it’s ugly head and all the ferries home were ca ..read more

As I sit writing this, in the midst of the Covid 19 Pandemic, I am ‘trapped’ on one of the channel islands where I have been working. You can read all about my new adventure over on my other blog, all about our life now, but as it is Danny and I are living apart from each other, and will be until at least the end of April. The irony is not lost on me that this will all coincide with the time of year that ‘The War’ took place. Up until now that time will have been the longest time that Danny and I were ever apart. After our reconciliation we knew that we never wanted to be apart from each othe ..read more

Many years ago (thirteen next month) I started to come to this exact place for solace. I would sit on the downs and look out to sea. The first time I did it I was insane, did not understand my life, or comprehend my future. But as I sat there looking out at the vast expanse of never ending sea and sky I started to understand just how insignificant I really was in the whole realm of things; and understanding that helped me to get things in to perspective, even if only for that brief moment as I sat there. Over the months this was the place I would come to when I thought my brain was going to e ..read more

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