Coming up to 3 years ago, 20 year old me felt a little underwhelmed with his dating life. Having a few flings here and there, but nothing sticking. He realised he didn't seem to have the energy for girls, nor did he have much motivation to meet any. Despite all his confidence work, he still felt something was holding him back... Traveling to Miami to attend a seminar, he met a guy who told him he had had the same issue. So, naturally asking how he got over it, this guy said something very strange... 'I stopped jacking off and watching porn' Surely it's natural to do that? Everyone does it rig ..read more

When it comes to fears, anxieties and worries, we often just assume that's how we are. We're born with them, it's part of who we are and helps shape our identity. This is a lie. In all my work with men, there's one fear that crops up again and again and again. One that I know all too well. The fear of approaching and talking to a woman. This is a learned fear, and if you look deeper you'll find it can be traced quite often to young age, namely schooldays. In school if you're a boy who likes a girl, you can't just tell them. Not if you're shy like a lot of guys are. Too shy to deal with the qu ..read more

In recent years it's become common to throw around the phrase 'Toxic Masculinity'. Men and toxic masculinity have been blamed for many atrocities, acts of violence and ridiculously high suicide rates among the male population. Clamping down on traditional masculinity has been societies way of aiding men to be more open, to lower their stress and to relieve themselves of emotional weight. And I agree. Men should be free to seek help, to unload, to let their guard down once in a while. But what happens when we forget to be men...? When we become so open, so expressive, so full of feminine energ ..read more

We live in a culture that takes pride in standing strong and proud, hiding behind a mask with a smile while within us is a rage we've forced to stay quiet. At some point in our lives, more than likely during childhood we were told 'Hey, don't be so loud', 'Hey, stay strong, no one wants to see you make a scene' or 'That's not funny, don't laugh' We held onto that deep within us. Stifled for the many years after, unsure why we could never bring up certain emotions. It is your right to express. To be unashamed to let go, to let loose. To bring up the energy inside of you and to scream in rage ..read more

(And its making us feel like SHIT!) When an Eagle is born, the mother eagle will push the baby off of the nest. Hopefully, the wind will catch under the bird and it'll start flapping its wings and then it and the mother will fly together... or it'll hit the ground. The nature of man isn't that different. Except, we changed. Society is so comfy for us that we didn't need to leave the nest. It's a harsh world and without being pushed from our nest, and by not having things brought to us, we won't learn to fly. For the Eagle, pushing the baby isn't about what the eagles going to get, food, sh ..read more

In a world where it's easy to hide from our problems through films and video games, and to disguise our frowns with an Instagram filter it's not hard to see why more and more of us can't seem to cope with the emotions life throws our way. Almost everything you read and watch from the mainstream will put it in your head that feeling anxious is bad, that feeling nervousness or butterflies is OK to avoid... ... But what if it's the opposite? What if by avoiding feeling anxious, you're actually creating even MORE nervousness? It's easy to believe that we are simply a timid person, prone to doubt ..read more

You've all been told again and again, be it for a first date, a job interview, or meeting somebody new, the advice you're given is 'Just be YOU'! But I ask you this; who really are you? How do you see yourself? It's funny because we have a totally different perception of who we are compared to the person giving us this advice! Who we are comes down to two things; - How we see ourselves and - How we interpret others opinions of us To fully embrace the 'just be you' idea, we have to come to terms with how we see ourselves, not who we wish we were or who we aspire to be. Once you've come to term ..read more

"Ginger prick" "Fake" "Your videos suck!" "The only people you're helping are those who need another reason to jump of a building" Ouch! People can be so friendly can't they? You'll know this if you've ever put yourself out there. If you've ever taken up a hobby and posted about it or you've ever created something and shared it with the world, you will, at some point receive criticism. That much is certain! It's a numbers game. The more people see you, the more people will like you AND the more people will dislike you. You can't have everyone agree with you and become your best pal, it's simp ..read more

What a title huh? 'How to be great' ? Sure, let's go with that! Being great is something you wouldn't say no to, but that alone is far too vague. To be great at what you do, however, narrows it down. You can be a great chef, a great writer, a great director, a great football player, but you can't be great at all 4 realistically, not without running yourself into the ground all while trying to pick up the pieces of your non existent social life. To be great at what you do, you have to narrow your field of vision, especially to get to a point where you are known for what you do. You only have s ..read more