My (29F) BF (29M) and I have known each other 4 years, been dating over a year now. He cheated on me physically and emotionally during that time, blamed it on his alcoholism due to mental health issues and a violent/painful past. We live together and I've been seriously debating moving out. Financially I could do it but I'd either need to get a roommate or be paycheck to paycheck basically. And I still love him and it would screw him over if I left, so for now at least I'm choosing to stay. However he wants to start over and he's been talking kids, marriage, getting a house etc. I've agreed t ..read more

Hi all, I ve moved to Germany a while ago with my boyfriend of 1y and a half, he s 32, divorced (his ex was doing videochat/onlyfans and she eventually cheated on him). I know i should not seach his google activity but after discussing random about escorts and prostitutes, I kinda understood he has seen some sex workers in his past. I managed to find out a contact, a quick discussion with one sex worker, his cronology matching (2 month before we dated). Ok, that was before me, no issues, even though annoys and makes me a little sick. Then saw that he visitef an fkk club in Germany in a trip 1 ..read more

This is a wild ride Me and my girlfriend have struggled with trust issues. I take a majority of the blame for my insecurity. I’ve had some lies on my end that I take responsibility for. The Blame not on me is catching her on tinder while out of town on a work trip about 9 months ago and hiding a secret Reddit account used for r4r. There was lying about the situation for a few months after. There was also a dramatic decrease in intimacy which I take partial responsibility for from my negativity toward her in the aftermath. My negativity came from I had a list of things I needed for closure on ..read more

So the more that I think about it, the more that I feel like my WH'S AP has just been pining over him all these years. They were dating a few months before we met, but she broke it off. Then, after he was with me a few months, she tried to get him back, but he said he had already found someone else. He told me that around the time our daughter was born (she's 12 now), AP had reached out to him saying that they should meet, but he said no. Fast forward to last year, AP liked a picture from 10 years prior on my WH's instagram, which you had to keep scrolling down on the page in order to see. WH ..read more

Please do not roast me. I am a wreck. Let me preface by saying this happened about 10 years ago. It’s never ever left me and I’ve never fully trusted him again . I just can’t. But I’ve since quit my job, am attending school to change my entire career, and he was the one who was supporting this (financially and any other way you can think of) I’ve become insanely paranoid about being cheated on again. So I’m always on edge. I’m aware this isn’t a way to live. How do you do it when you want to stay but you don’t the pain anymore? To my knowledge he hasn’t done anything (that I know of) so how d ..read more

Hello everyone I’ve been on a long journey of healing and forgiveness. I was cheated on shortly after I gave birth during postpartum depression and still currently going through it. I have decided to possibly forgive only because of our child and he is so young (a few months old). I am allowed to put a parental control on my spouses phone. He wants to choose one but I don’t trust him. I am needing a good website or app that can show me his screen and his apps that he frequently uses I also would like to see his call log and messages if possible. Does anyone have any good suggestions? I am awa ..read more

https://www.reddit.com/r/Infidelity/s/c3jt43GZjb I posted the previous post here a couple days ago talking about how my boyfriend had been buying Only Fans and messaging other women to flirt and buy sexual content from them. We got into a fight about something unrelated that night then that topic got brought up and I broke up with him. We were a little drunk when fighting so we revisited in the morning. I don’t know if I made the right decision though. He kept saying things like he just thought it was like regular porn and didn’t think about how I would feel about it. But then why was he hidi ..read more

Not necessarily looking for advice when I write this, more just of an excuse to rant because I don't really have people to rant to and just let out how I really feel. I (19M) recently broke up with my girlfriend (18F) of 3 years because she was a compulsive cheater. Nearly 2 years into our relationship she came to me and told me that a guy kissed her at the club but she didn't kiss him back and she ended it straight away and said she has a boyfriend. It was difficult but I tried by absolute best to trust her and move past what happened, but then about 7/8 months after it happened I found out ..read more

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The thought of leaving hurts not just for me, but for our son. It feels pathetic, two years after it all and I still feel so lost. Like it's a mistake to leave but also a mistake to stay. I feel like I still constantly replay on the pain in my head and wonder if this is all that's out there for me. After over 10 years together I don't even know where to go from here. We have a son and just bought a house, I don't think I want to lose this relationship but I also don't think I can keep feeling like this. He tells me he loves me and that he wants to be together but then everything I do seems to ..read more