In the Fall of 2013 when I decided to write a book about boundaries for partners, I began with an outline that became Moving Beyond Betrayal, and decided to start a blog as a way to write the book. The blog was originally named Survival Strategies for Partners of Sex Addicts, and the first article... Continue Reading... The post Time to Thrive appeared first on Vicki Tidwell Palmer ..read more

Over the past two weeks as most of us in the US have necessarily entered into various forms of shelter in place or stay at home conditions, life has become more simple, more immediate, and in many ways more intensely intimate. I’ve heard heart-warming stories from clients about closer connections with spouses and children, more... Continue Reading... The post Life Can Only Be Found in the Present Moment appeared first on Vicki Tidwell Palmer ..read more

In the Fall of 2013 when I decided to write a book about boundaries for partners, I began with an outline that became Moving Beyond Betrayal, and decided to start a blog as a way to write the book. The blog was originally named Survival Strategies for Partners of Sex Addicts, and the first article... Continue Reading... The post Time to Thrive appeared first on Vicki Tidwell Palmer ..read more

Over the past two weeks as most of us in the US have necessarily entered into various forms of shelter in place or stay at home conditions, life has become more simple, more immediate, and in many ways more intensely intimate. I’ve heard heart-warming stories from clients about closer connections with spouses and children, more... Continue Reading... The post Life Can Only Be Found in the Present Moment appeared first on Vicki Tidwell Palmer ..read more

I’ll get right to the point: emotional healing is an inside job. I know, because over the years I’ve experienced a multitude of emotional wounds — many self-inflicted, some having no obvious explanation, and some inflicted on me by another person’s unconsciousness or cruelty. Regardless of who or what was “at fault” for my pain,... Continue Reading... The post Healing Begins With You appeared first on Vicki Tidwell Palmer ..read more

First, I want to say “thank you” to all of you who have thanked me over the years for my work on behalf of betrayed partners. In the past year, I have become clearer about where I want to focus my efforts and who I want to serve, which is something I encourage every person... Continue Reading... The post An Open Letter to Betrayed Male Partners appeared first on Vicki Tidwell Palmer ..read more

Discovering that you’ve been betrayed or deceived is devastating. Discovery is disorienting, and creates feelings of uncertainty about yourself, your spouse, and your life. To make sense of the new information you’ve received and to seek a sense of safety, some of the most common activities partners engage in immediately after discovery are: Searching phone... Continue Reading... The post 5 Ways to Deprive the Past of Oxygen appeared first on Vicki Tidwell Palmer ..read more

[This is the seventh, and final, article of a 7-part series on the Six Intimacy Skills™️ by Laura Doyle. Read the first article here.] The sixth of the Six Intimacy Skills™ is refocusing your view with gratitude. Gratitude is defined as: the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness.... Continue Reading... The post Refocus Your View With Gratitude: The #6 Skill for Building Intimacy appeared first on Vicki Tidwell Palmer ..read more

[This article is the sixth in a 7-part series on the Six Intimacy Skills™️ by Laura Doyle. Read the first article here.] The fifth of the Six Intimacy Skills™ is revealing your heart with vulnerability. Vulnerability is defined as: the quality or state of being exposed to the possibility of being attacked or harmed, either... Continue Reading... The post Vulnerability: The #5 Skill for Building Intimacy appeared first on Vicki Tidwell Palmer ..read more

[This article is the fifth in a 7-part series on the Six Intimacy Skills™️ by Laura Doyle. Read the first article here.] Since we’re now in the full swing of the holiday season, it’s the perfect time to talk about receiving graciously! Why is receiving graciously an intimacy skill? Think back to a time when... Continue Reading... The post Receiving Graciously: The #4 Skill for Building Intimacy appeared first on Vicki Tidwell Palmer ..read more