Discovering the TRUTH about infidelity will provide comfort, set you free and help you develop your plan of action. All affairs are not alike. Affairs are different depending on • the motivation • personality factors • and personal history of the cheating spouse. Once you know the type of affair you can pinpoint exactly what you can say and do to disrupt the patterns. Others have found this to be true… I am amazed at how on-target you are in your profiles of the different types of “cheaters.” I wish I had this two years ago–would have saved me a lot of trial-and-error. You are very good at wha ..read more

It’s often like pulling teeth… or worse. And, you want it so badly… • To know what he thinks • A connection – something! • You’ve tried everything • You feel so alone and rejected 90% of those I coach want ‘something’ from their spouse, but struggle and fail to get it. You are NOT alone. I researched the topic and 373 of my readers shared what worked and what did not. Note their responses. Learn from others. Welcome their input. Getting Him/Her to Talk What have you tried to get him/her to open up? What has worked? What has not worked? Please do not use names, locations or other items that ind ..read more

I often reflect: What is about what I do that people find so liberating and helpful? Here’s what I think it is: I help those suffering from marriage crisis (or any crisis, really) to feel normal; they are not defective and nothing in essence is wrong with them. To regain your self-esteem and good feelings about self, knowing that that is a true reality, is HUGE! As a matter of fact, you don’t know how HUGE it is until you lose it. Right? Ok. So how does that happen? How can YOU get to that point of feeling “normal” again? Over the past 3 decades I’ve received a ton of feedback that has enabled ..read more

Key Point: An affair is built upon tension. Tension fuels an affair, not love; nothing else. And, that tension resides most powerfully between husband, wife and the affair partner. (Learn more about the nature of this tension in the Infidelity Recovery Center.) Unfortunately, what is subtly poured into your mind about handling an affair by family, friends and culture only increases the tension; and therefore, the power of the attraction to the other person. You respond to the affair with what I call the 6 Killer Mistakes – that prolong the affair and your misery. These Killer Mistakes ramp up ..read more

Thousands like you, since I went online in 2001, have made it through the infidelity crisis in their marriage. You can too. You can survive infidelity. But, Infidelity Recovery doesn’t happen by chance. These thousands went through a recovery process and left nothing to chance. And, that’s what you are looking for, correct? You want a pathway, a road that moves you out of overwhelm and confusion. And, you need to know that this road can be trusted, a road others have traveled with success. Those who transformed the betrayal of infidelity into a newfound confidence and trust followed very speci ..read more

Click the arrow to begin the video of the Q & A Click Here to Listen and/or Download Audio to Your Device (Right click the button above and select “Save Link As…” to download the audio file) Chat Transcript of the Q & A Glad you are here. Feel free to add your questions or comments. 3:00 PM Rob (to Organizers): my husband had an emotional affair that I found out about about 18 months ago. he moved out and is back home 3:00 PM Rob (to Organizers): but doesn’t seem to be doing the work. I don’t know what else to fo 3:01 PM Rob (to Organizers): we need to move forwa ..read more

Click the arrow to begin the video of the Q & A Click Here to Listen and/or Download Audio to Your Device (Right click the button above and select “Save Link As…” to download the audio file) Chat Transcript of the Q & A Glad you are here. Feel free to add your questions or comments. 2:44 PM To All: If you are early and have a question, feel free to type in question here. 2:55 PM Todd (to All): My question is how to deal with the denial that the person I’m with actually did this since it’s so far from whom I have been married to all these years and deal with no matter i ..read more

Click the arrow to begin the video of the Q & A Click Here to Listen and/or Download Audio to Your Device (Right click the button above and select “Save Link As…” to download the audio file) Chat Transcript of the Q & A Glad you are here. Feel free to add your questions or comments. 2:59 PM Todd (to All): so when do you know it’s time to give up and if so should you feel guilty on your part because your not the perfect spouse 3:00 PM John (to All): yes 3:00 PM Dia (to All): yes 3:00 PM Elena (to All): yes 3:00 PM Betty (to All): yes 3:03 PM Joh ..read more