Today on Talk To Me, I am joined by Alexis. Her question is, “why do some traumas take longer to heal than others?” Whether you are a trauma survivor, a mental health professional, or someone who is interested in learning more about this important topic, this podcast is for you! Are you ready to talk to me? Additional Ways To Listen: iHEART RADIO Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA i ..read more

Today on Talk To Me hotline, I talk to Andrew from Texas! His question is, “How do you know you are healed after a past relationship?” After a 16 year marriage ended in divorce, he’s wondering how to know when he has healed… And even more specifically, when is it time to consider dating again after divorce? I answer him by explaining that it’s a complicated question, because everyone’s situation is so different… But if I narrow it down to one thing that I believe differentiates those who are healed from those who are unhealed. What’s that one thing you ask? That’s why you’ve got to tune into t ..read more

Today I talk to Ann from Maryland, who struggles with emotionally overreacting. Due to some prior hurts and past relationships, she finds herself triggered by situations that probably have more to do with her past than they do with her present. She’s having a hard time not overreacting in situations of conflict, and wants to figure out why as well as how to react and respond appropriately. She is afraid to push people away due to her emotional reactions, and she called into the hotline to get some help! I help her navigate some of these triggers, and learn to react in emotionally healthy ways ..read more

Today on the podcast I talk with Benjamin from Washington. Benjamin is navigating his life post divorce… wanting to find an emotionally safe environment for himself moving forward and wondering how to do that. We spend a lot of time talking about the fact that emotional safety isn’t something that you necessarily “find” as much as it is something you have to create with intentionality. I help him get to the root of some of his emotional needs, and why it took him so long to identify those needs. We chat about our own role in cultivating emotional safety, and what that looks like in a practica ..read more

Today on Talk To Me, I have a conversation with a woman who is struggling with some underlying anxiety about dating! She’s having a hard time figuring out if the fears she’s having are legitimate or not! Do I have anxiety because this dating relationship isn’t the right fit or do I have anxiety because I’m just scared? And how do you know the difference? Today we talk about facing your fears, recognizing false alarms, important mindset shifts, and dealing with underlying anxiety in dating! Tune in to this powerful conversation today! Additional Ways To Listen: iHEART RADIO Talk To Me: T ..read more

Am I over my divorce? Today on Talk To Me, I have a conversation with Jerrod who is wondering if he’s actually moved on from the pain of his divorce. He’s battling feelings of regret from the decisions he’s made in his past, and feeling unable to move forward. In this emotional conversation, we unpack some of the things that he did to contribute to his marriage falling apart…including his personal sexual struggles— and then I give him steps that he can begin to take to move forward into healing. Tune in to this powerful conversation today! Additional Ways To Listen: iHEART RADIO Talk To ..read more

Today I chat with Rebekah from Florida about how to navigate an unhealthy marriage, especially when you have children, who you are trying to raise in a healthy way! The most interesting part about my conversation with Rebekah is that by the time I was able to get to her question, things had already began to shift in her life!!! She started consuming my podcast and my books, and realized that a huge portion to creating a healthy marriage was learning how to get healthy standing alone… And she got started on her own journey of healing!! Honestly, I was so inspired and encouraged by my conversat ..read more

What happens when mental health struggles impact your relationship? On this final of couples therapy, I’m joined by Amanda and Tim. Tim has found himself struggling with trust issues, because of the difficult journey they have been on over the past few years. Amanda has struggled with infidelity in their relationship, but underneath the surface of it all she had been battling bipolar disorder. The ups and downs of their relationship have correlated to her mental health, and they have found themselves struggling to know how to move forward. this conversation is so important, because too many p ..read more

I was single on valentines day.  It was a couple short years before I met my husband John, and I remember I was sitting alone in my apartment on the night of Valentine’s day. Which may not sound like a big deal in and of itself , except that I was also recovering from a difficult breakup. I felt kind of lost.  I wasn’t sure what to do with myself. Have you ever had one of those moments in life where it seems like EVERYONE has someone but you?  I couldn’t even have a “girls night out” like I’d planed in years past (it’s always a great distraction) because this year, the girl ..read more

Today we continue our MOST POPULAR series of the podcast — COUPLES THERAPY!!! I’ve invited couples to join me on the podcast for ON-AIR couples therapy sessions, where we pull back the curtain on marriage, and talk through the hard things in order to get to the other side! You will love this series, and you will be inspired by these courageous couples and their stories.  The conversations are raw, real, and authentic…for a look into marriage you’ve never had before.  Today’s couple is struggling with boundaries with the opposite sex! After overcoming an affair, they find themselves ..read more