The one exception, as it relates to money spent in your marriage where you BOTH don’t need to be aligned – Where you don’t have to consult your spouse on money, and your spouse doesn’t have to consult you – It’s when it happens within the confines of FUN MONEY. Sounds fun, right? Even the name of it gives it away.   Now, the question is: Do you know what that is? It’s money you get to spend HOWEVER you want, and your spouse gets to do the same. NO questions, no judgment, no asking. But there are conditions to be put in place so that it works WELL, every time. If you don’t k ..read more

    If you ARE celebrating today – Happy Valentine’s Day! Here’s what NEVER gets old.   It’s NOT True This Valentine’s Day   As I went to get snacks for the office, middle of the afternoon, seeing an elderly gentleman, checking out in front of me, with a beautiful card and a yellow potted plant. For his sweetheart. With a smile on his face, he was there, on his own, getting all the stuff. From the looks of it, it seemed like she must have not been feeling well. This is what doesn’t ever get old. Watching practically EVERY man in the store (the 6’2″ and everyone under that ..read more

    Let me start with this: True Story I’m sitting in a quiet room at the Millcroft Inn, a peaceful little place hidden back among the pine trees about an hour out of Toronto. It’s just past noon, late July, and I’m listening to the desperate sounds of a life-or death struggle going on a few feet away. There’s a small fly burning out the last of its short life’s energies in a futile attempt to fly through the glass of the windowpane. The shining wings tell the poignant story of the fly’s strategy – try harder. But it’s not working. The frenzied effort offers no hope for survival. Ir ..read more

This content is password protected. To view it please enter your password below: Password: The post Protected: Refresh – Bonus appeared first on Bogott Counseling ..read more

    The number of times that people tell me – or I overhear them telling someone else without them realizing – that they don’t have the money to invest in their marriage – Too many. I stopped counting. If you are sitting there, thinking to yourself – yeah – but it’s true — Here’s what I’d want you to ALSO know.   10 Not-So-Obvious-Ways Your Marriage is Costing You Already   Number One – The ATT, Unenjoyed   I’m not talking about the phone company here. The ATT stands for – Alone Time Together. You plan your vacations. As you should (I feel like I harp on this all the ..read more

  What I realized when our daughter asked me one simple question: “Why are you cleaning SO MUCH??” So she asked me this question as I am frantically trying to clean the bathroom, the hardwood floors, and carpeted areas of the home, all prior to some family coming over. People that have never seen our home before. It’s simple, really – I wanted to make a good impression. Doesn’t everyone? Right. But –   Doing Cleanup in Secret at our House – Here’s What I Realized   I had this realization that my cleaning when they (our kids) aren’t home, my picking up when they don’t see me ..read more

    This post is for you IF you are FRUSTRATED that your Spouse isn’t recovering FAST ENOUGH AFTER INFIDELITY.   My Red Light/Green Light Experience   As I was driving to the office this morning, at one of the intersections, I got stopped at a red light. I was the first one in line to go through at the traffic lights. I wait, like any other human would, for the red light to change to green. BUT – When green hits – I don’t go right away. I still look, both ways, right and left – to make sure it’s clear. It’s not that I don’t trust the lights. I trust the lights – I know it ..read more

    This MIGHT just be THE MOST unrecognized BREAKER OF TRUST. Did you know this? You are not who you say are. You are not what you say you’re going to do but never ACTUALLY do. Soooo… The million dollar question is: Are YOU doing this? Meaning: Where you’re saying you’re gonna SAY something, or you’re saying you’re gonna DO something — And then NOT doing it. You don’t say the thing.   Broken Trust in Marriage Relationships – SHATTERING MARRIAGE AFTER MARRIAGE   That, right there, my friend – It shatters marriage after marriage. It re-creates the brokenness. It creates dis ..read more

    Know Your Impact — First, Story Time   With the first snow of the season landing on our lawn, I was reminded of this particular night last winter. We had just spent two weeks at a beach with the whole entire extended family. We were coming back, the flight was a little delayed. The kids were getting tired, the adults were getting tired, too. We were all kind of hungry, but not really – You know that state, right? Don’t get me wrong – we were all VERY well rested from the vacation – BUT the travel does its thing to a person. We had our car parked at the grandparents house so ..read more

    Nobody cleans during a tornado. You don’t either. Of course you DON’T. Nobody does. What’s this talk of tornadoes, you ask — Let me explain.   Why Nobody Cleans During a Tornado    YOU CANNOT clean during a tornado. We all know this, right? You are collecting all the humans (and pets) you love and making sure they are safe. That’s what you do during a tornado. Nobody is standing at the door, pointing to the dishes or the carpet that needs vacuuming, saying – oh, I better do this quick. Nobody pulls out the paint swatches (or whatever those things are called at L ..read more