Tim Hill Psychotherapy
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I am Melbourne psychotherapist and counsellor. I help people address and resolve critical life decisions. I specialise in helping resolve pornography problems.
Tim Hill Psychotherapy
4y ago
We like to think of Australia as a country without divisions. We like to think that everyone has a fair go, and that things are equal. However, there are some real distinctions between different groups in Australia and their access to mental health care, no matter how we wish it was otherwise. One of the ways that we are divided is through socioeconomic factors and perceptions of control about our mental health.
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Socioeconomics and mental health
Socioeconomic factors affect mental health in many ways. The lack of financial resources can mean that people canno ..read more
Tim Hill Psychotherapy
4y ago
When we've known someone for a long time, we can think that we really know them well. Over the years, we've seen them in different ways and we feel like we know them inside and out. Knowing them, we can have certain expectations of them; when those expectations aren't met, we so easily find ourselves trying to guess why. We can wonder if it's not about disrespect. However, it's so easy for us to be led astray and start jumping to the wrong conclusions.
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Even though we might know other people well, we don't know them as well as they know themselves. They are st ..read more
Tim Hill Psychotherapy
4y ago
The ancient Romans revered Romulus. Their legends said that he, with his twin brother Remus, founded the city of Rome 400 years before. They assigned all sorts of worthy characteristics to Romulus; nobility, strength in battle, wisdom and moral certainty. On the other hand, Remus was seen as having much more unworthy qualities. The difficulty was, even then there were no accurate records about the early founding of Rome. So instead of being accurate about their hero, it's likely the Romans were doing something very human and ignoring the hero within.
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We look for ..read more
Tim Hill Psychotherapy
4y ago
Understandably, we all have a desire to be approved of and accepted. People show their approval and acceptance of us in a range of verbal and non-verbal ways, and we feel good. Similarly, we all fear rejection to some extent; a comment or gesture that even hints that people don't approve of us. However, I believe even worse than rejection is the hurt that comes from a deafening silence.
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When we receive compliments from people or they say things that indicate that they accept us, we take from this that we are acceptable to them and that we are human just like they a ..read more
Tim Hill Psychotherapy
4y ago
We all want to build new skills. We feel that if we knew more and had more skills, then we could be more effective in the world. However, we sometimes fail to remember that what we can learn is limited by some of our psychological processes. How do these psychological processes limit what we can learn; how do beliefs and knowledge work together?
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Beliefs and knowledge
Learning is about the acquisition of new knowledge and new skills. When it works well, these things allow us to live happier and more fulfilled life, and to be more effective in our work. Or, if the ..read more
Tim Hill Psychotherapy
4y ago
Often in our lives, we live quite well. We understand our position in the world, and we can find areas in our life in which we feel powerful. However, there are times when we're in situations which are foreign to us; these situations lead us to feeling dramatically less powerful and a lot more vulnerable. What are some of the pitfalls, and what can we do to manage power and vulnerability?
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Power and Vulnerability
There seems such a strong relationship between expected (or anticipated) power and vulnerability. Further, we can be quite surprised how quickly a de ..read more
Tim Hill Psychotherapy
4y ago
We often experience events that distress and challenge us. This can happen for all sorts of reasons; work, family, relationship and a seeming limitless number of other scenarios. We can react in a variety of ways as well, with anger, sadness, regret – or even other responses. In dealing with these things, it can also help to remember that there may be a common element of hidden anxiety in many of our responses.
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Finding the pattern
Because the circumstance can be so different, it can be hard to imagine that there is a common factor. The things that happen at w ..read more
Tim Hill Psychotherapy
4y ago
We would all like to live a life where we didn't fail at anything. We can feel that it'd really be ideal if everything we turn our hand to was successful. Similarly, would also like to know how to build resilience to the difficulties in our life. However, building resilience can't happen in a life that only contains success. Why do resilience and failure go together?
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Building resilience
Resilience is our ability to cope with unexpected circumstances, and can be thought of as emotional fitness. If we are resilient, we are then able to cope better with life's up ..read more
Tim Hill Psychotherapy
4y ago
Trust is a very important issue for people. We are social animals, and we very much want to trust other people. However, we sometimes find this trust hard to give. This leaves us both wanting to trust but holding back our trust. In these situations it would be helpful to know how trust works.
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The societies and families we built for ourselves are complex and they rest on our ability to trust others. Throughout our day, we trust people in small and big ways without thinking about how trust works. However, when we form a strong attachment to somebody, the stak ..read more