Feeling Unmotivated?
Upstairs | Coaching for Melbourne's thinking women
by Alex Kingsmill
11M ago
Feeling unmotivated? Remember the Motivation Equation: Motivation = Interest in the Goal x Belief in Your Chances of Success And then take action to address each element. Interest in the Goal I see two big patterns here – Curse of the Shoulds: when you are convinced you are interested in the goal because it is something you Should want. An example? A promotion into management, with more responsibility, greater capacity for influence and higher remuneration. But actually you love the doing work and deep down, you really want to stay exactly where you are… Competing Goals: when a part of y ..read more
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Window Shopping
Upstairs | Coaching for Melbourne's thinking women
by Alex Kingsmill
1y ago
For coaching to really work, you need to be ready for it. I can generally hear in a prospective client’s voice, whether they’re primed for change or whether they’re Window Shopping. Window Shopping? That’s when you aren’t sure, when you’re feeling ambivalent. You want the change but you aren’t entirely convinced that you’re willing to do what it takes to get what you want. Unless your goal in coaching is to shift that sense of ambivalence [which would be entirely valid] it is important to make sure that you arrive knowing that you’re ready to take action. Be ready to open the shop do ..read more
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Prime Yourself
Upstairs | Coaching for Melbourne's thinking women
by Alex Kingsmill
1y ago
So, you know that you’re going to be working towards a big goal? Prime Yourself! Do all the things that you know will set you up for success: Morning person? Set aside time from 5am till when the kids get up Need coffee? Get a cup before you start Know you’ll be distracted by your phone? Give it to someone else for a couple of hours Worried about interruptions from friendly neighbours? Lock the door and sit where they can’t peer in Work best with music? Set up a playlist the week before Know a workout fuels your brain cells? Go for a run beforehand Can’t think properly when you’re too cold? H ..read more
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Opposite World
Upstairs | Coaching for Melbourne's thinking women
by Alex Kingsmill
1y ago
What do you do when you’re not at work? There’s a whole lot of interesting research about the protective factor that comes with having an ‘Opposite World’ to your world of work. People who have an activity or hobby that puts them into a state that is the direct opposite of the mindset they have at work are often recharged and don’t turn to burn out in the same way others might. Opposite Worlds tend to fall into six key domains: Physical exercise – maybe you’re a surgeon who runs marathons Artistic – you could be a policy writer who paints landscapes Nature – you might be a stay at h ..read more
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Keep going…until
Upstairs | Coaching for Melbourne's thinking women
by Alex Kingsmill
1y ago
Various studies have shown that perseverance is an essential quality for success in life. It often tops aptitude and raw talent as a predictor of achievement. Knowing that can be helpful. When stuff starts to get hard, when you start to doubt yourself, it can be a helpful reminder: I don’t have to know everything, I don’t have to be the best, I just have to keep going. But this Just Keep Going approach can come unstuck. I have a whole lot of high-performing clients who can just PUSH THROUGH! But that focus often deafens them to the messages their bodies and brains are sending th ..read more
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Not convinced
Upstairs | Coaching for Melbourne's thinking women
by Alex Kingsmill
1y ago
One of the big reasons your goal-attainment might struggle is this: you were never sufficiently convinced. Maybe you weren’t convinced by the goal [perhaps there were lingering whispers of ‘should’…]; or Perhaps you weren’t convinced by the process [the discomfort of taking that action never truly seemed worth it…] You launched in – raring to go! But there was a tiny piece of you that wasn’t all in. And so the goal-striving fell over. When it comes to goals, ambivalence is absolutely normal. But if you jump early, before that ambivalence is resolved, before you’re absolutely convinced b ..read more
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Golden Hour
Upstairs | Coaching for Melbourne's thinking women
by Alex Kingsmill
1y ago
Your Golden Hour? That’s the hour you gift yourself each day, to use in a way that will lead you more consciously towards the life you really want. It is an hour that is just for you. To sit and think or write or draw or exercise or stretch or garden or call your favourite person or design your future or listen to podcasts or read articles. It’s the hour you guard preciously and refuse to handover with all the other hours that you give to others. And it’s a daily thing. A promise that you keep to yourself. It might happen at 5am or it could be at 11pm. But ideally, it features when you are at ..read more
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Shiny Hair
Upstairs | Coaching for Melbourne's thinking women
by Alex Kingsmill
1y ago
Do you think my hair looks shiny?! I remember A Hundred Years ago, someone I like very much told me that when she’s feeling flat, she says this to her partner so that they’ll say: yes! It is! And then she feels great. At the time, it made me laugh. But now I think about how helpful it is as a strategy to use…with yourself. When you find yourself yourself feeling flat you can simply ask yourself: do you think my hair is shiny?/I’m kind?/I made a great risotto?/I delivered a strong performance?/I wrote an awesome submission? And then you simply answer yourself: yes! Yes it is! Yes you are! Yes y ..read more
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Values 101
Upstairs | Coaching for Melbourne's thinking women
by Alex Kingsmill
1y ago
People talk about values all the time but no-one ever really tells you what a value is, how to work out what your values are, or how to use your values. Do they? So here it is, folks: Values 101! What is a Value? I like to think of values as Principles of a Life Well Lived.  How Do You Work Them Out? There are heaps of ways to work out your values. You can: Google ‘Values Lists’ and see which words jump out at you, making your own list and refining it as you go Free-write on the following question: If you got to the end of your life and you knew, without a shadow of a doubt that you ..read more
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Confidence Boost
Upstairs | Coaching for Melbourne's thinking women
by Alex Kingsmill
1y ago
As an evidence-based life and career coach, people speak to me all the time about confidence and about how to boost it. There are a whole lot of strategies – practical stuff you can do and internal shifts you can make, to encourage greater confidence. This is one idea. Situations Have a think about the situations in which your confidence tends to take a dip. It could be: When you’re presenting to an audience When you’re with new people and you think they won’t like you When you’re doing hard stuff and you start to think you aren’t good enough Strategies Then determine some practical things t ..read more
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