Can spouses that ask for a divorce just stop the flip flopping please as someone that has this done to her almost daily I beg you to stop, if your not ready bags packed don’t ask for a divorce and continue to work, but don’t play mental games of flip flopping with the spouse that didn’t ask for this, I’m legit going through hell with this how can you expect someone to get over you of your constantly leading them in to hope. ? submitted by /u/Beneficial-Week3362 [visit reddit] [comments ..read more

I (55M) was married for 25 years before getting divorced a few years ago. My ex wife and I have two kids in their mid-20s. My ex was a loving involved mom for about 5 years. Then she more-or-less just put the kids (and me) on the back burner. I ended up doing most of the child raising (and all the money earning), and that continues today. In fact, my ex has moved to another state, passively texts with one of our kids about once-per-month (our other daughter won’t talk to her), but otherwise is not involved with our kids lives at all although she is involved with her now boyfriend’s young daug ..read more

It’s now been little over a year since the breakup and about nine months since the start of the actual divorce process (it’s about to be finalized very soon, which is such a huge relief). Lately there’s been a lot of these little things reminding me of my ex, the life we had together, and that makes me sad. A recent example: I was taking the trash out and put on the sneakers that are on there way out, too, and that use as a sort of outdoor slippers. Suddenly I get this flashback to the moment we were shopping for those and felt sad about that being now part of history that doesn’t continue to ..read more

2.5 years trying to divorce a narc and trial is approaching. I have to pay even more money to fight for what is right. He is lying on his financials and working under the table make More than me but it's going to so much to prove. I have 3 kids but I am so mentally exhausted. Words of encouragement or light at the end of the road stories would really help me right now. I had to recently move and the cost are just piling up. I just want to move on and be happy, I’m trying to start over and I can’t even afford to decorate and make thier rooms their own which i wish i could so they could feel sa ..read more

Feeling completely adrift and at a loss after being married for 15 long years, I find myself grappling with a myriad of emotions. Despite my best efforts to suggest couples therapy, my husband continues to avoid facing our relationship issues head-on, leaving me feeling frustrated and helpless. The strain on our marriage is taking its toll on my mental and emotional well-being, leaving me feeling drained and overwhelmed. Despite his declarations of love, I can't shake this feeling of disconnection from him, and I worry about the future of our relationship. The mounting problems and unresolved ..read more

My wife just left me and I'm reeling from this. Not as it's a shock, she gave me many chances. But I love her so much and I feel so empty now. submitted by /u/human_matchstick [visit reddit] [comments ..read more

Does anyone here attribute the decline of their marriage to their nasty in laws? Ofc, responsibility falls at the feet of those who had been married, but does anyone have experiences where their in-laws contributed to the ruin? My own mother in law was/is convinced that I need more medication because my depression and anxiety ruined my marriage in spite of her son’s abusive tendencies. submitted by /u/need_sushi510 [visit reddit] [comments ..read more

Hi all, been married 15 years, 3 young kids. We’ve been together since we were teenagers and are now in our early 40s. our marriage has been deteriorating since the first kid arrived 10 years ago and has got rapidly worse the past couple of years. When do you know it’s the right thing to divorce ? I fully expect divorce to fuck up my life and my kids lives for a decade or maybe even longer but I’m so sad and angry all the time I’m not sure if it can be avoided. What are the redlines or patterns of thinking or behaviour which show it’s just not worth it anymore? When did you realise it was tim ..read more

I feel like the divorce (or closing the chapter as my spouse called it) is my fault. I was a failure and I caused so many issues. I cycle through hating them and hating myself. I just want this feeling to stop. But I just don't feel good enough. Because if the person who knew me best, who knew every little thing about me, who I have been with for 16 years (literally half our lives) does want me then who would? We ended up being toxic for each other after we were perfect for each other. I'm moving cities and trying to find a new job and my family say it'll be the making of me. But honestly I j ..read more

Just attending my 4th at-fault divorce hearing, where I got to hear all about how it's my fault for my husband cheating on me and leaving our 2 and 3 year old for his mistress. You see, I would get angry at him for staying out all night (cheating on me). This degraded our relationship, so we had an unspoken arrangment where he was allowed to cheat on me. Our relationship didn't get destroyed by his affair and abandoment - but by *my anger* about him cheating on me, duh! Well actually, it was only my anger over him staying out all night for "networking" that destroyed our relationship. When I ..read more