Three Communication Styles, which one you are? (Tick as many boxes that apply to you) Passive-aggressive behaviours include the following: Obsession, compulsion, neurosis, fanaticism, deviousness Dispassion, disingenuous, phoniness, insincerity, inability to make decisions, fatalism, defeatism Self-blame, self-judgement, self-criticism, self-shame Guardedness, secrecy, caginess, withholding Self-sacrifice, self-denial, martyrdom Calculation, manipulation, de ..read more

Shame is a self-conscious emotion resulting from feelings of personal inadequacy, dishonour and disgrace. Some English words associated to this feeling are humiliation, guilt, embarrassment and remorse. Feelings of shame result when we believe we have done something inadequately or have directly violated core cultural values. Whilst the ability to deeply reflect about ourselves and our actions is necessary and positive, feeling ashamed is a negative emotion that deprives us of our full expression thereby re-inforcing our own perceived lower value to others. Shame can be either a vice or a virt ..read more

According to the Health and Safety Executive (HSE), in 2011/12, 428,000 people in the UK reported work-related stress at a level they believed was making them ill.nThat’s 40% of all work-related illness. Stress doesn’t just affect our mental state. Our physical health is linked to our psychological state and suffers too, with symptoms including insomnia, breathlessness, loss of appetite, chest pains, body tension and back pain.nAnxiety and depression, often linked to stress, are behind one in five visits to a GP.nTake our 5 minute FREE online Stress Test and find out how your stress levels mea ..read more

According to the Health and Safety Executive (HSE), in 2011/12, 428,000 people in the UK reported work-related stress at a level they believed was making them ill.nnThat’s 40% of all work-related illness. Stress doesn’t just affect our mental state. Our physical health is linked to our psychological state and suffers too, with symptoms including insomnia, breathlessness, loss of appetite, chest pains, body tension and back pain.nnAnxiety and depression, often linked to stress, are behind one in five visits to a GP.nnTake our 5 minute FREE online Anger Test and find out how your Anger levels me ..read more

Why parents are getting angrier: ‘Children are bored out of their skulls with real life’ “It’s hard to know the difference between parenting and bullying,” admits Matt, father of two and one of a growing number of parents seeking help to control what they see as unacceptable levels of anger towards their children. Matt is an articulate and successful self-employed businessman in his 40s. After he split up from their mother five years ago, his two sons, then 11 and 14, started to act up by answering back, skipping homework, drinking and taking drugs. It marked the start of a phase of intense an ..read more

As an organisation, the British Association of Anger Management has counselled many people when anger has been affecting their lives. When working with individuals who have had addiction in their lives, we have found that, after the initial rehabilitation process, feelings and emotions come to the surface. If left unaddressed they have the potential to affect lives in unhealthy ways. One of the strongest of these feelings is anger. In principle this is a neutral feeling but how we express it makes it healthy or unhealthy. Unhealthy anger can be expressed passively by being internalised or exte ..read more

Anger in Football hits the Headlines again. It seems Joey Barton is having trouble controlling his emotions on the pitch.  Football is all good clean fun, or is it? Lets look at the triggers for Anger: One of our triggers for Anger is the Loss of a Personal Goal (excuse the Pun!). When we are involved in Team games such a Football, tensions run high. Why? Because we all want to win, we all want goals to be scored and our team come home with the Trophy.  No more so than the professionals who are paid to deliver the goods and that puts a lot of stress on their shoulders (Trigger number 2). So ad ..read more

In light of Joey Barton’s recent outburst on the football pitch, Mike Fisher was interviewed in both the Guardian and for Talksport Radio.  You can find the link to the Guardian article below as well as the audio recording. http://www.guardian.co.uk/football/shortcuts/2012/may/14/joey-barton-tips-wayne-rooney Talksport Radio The post Mike Fisher Interview : The Guardian & Talk Sport appeared first on Beating Anger ..read more

When I first looked into writing this blog I thought I would right it in third-person perspective as I now specialise in anger, stress and emotional management. But depression and anger was a big part in my life so I will write this as a sufferer of both. I left school with one GCSE above ‘C’ in art, attended three colleges, a failed year at university and had around 20 different jobs. Then in my early twenties I slipped into depression. I had lost my identity, my self-esteem and confidence were at rock bottom and my life was going nowhere. Did I think anger played a part in me becoming depres ..read more

Ye Shiwen,16 years old, has not only won two gold medals in the 2012 Olympics, but she is also the first woman to swim faster than the best man. Ye set the world record for the 400 metre Women’s Individual Medley, beating American Ryan Lochte’s last 50 meters in the same event by a whole second. Rest of the world: not so cool, calm and collected. Ye’s incredible success has been sullied by the disbelief from the majority of the western world.  The legitimacy of her victory has been openly doubted, and she has been questioned about whether or not she has been using performance-enhancing drugs ..read more